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A Time For Every
Senior Scene® | April Issue
There are also adult day care centers that give the caregiver a break and offers a change of routine and stimulation for the dementia patient.
Assisted Living is a wonderful option for many seniors. Far different than the stark “nursing home” settings of our grandparent’s era, today’s assisted living communities are vibrant busy communities  lled with activities, music, great food, and companionship. They are more like being on a cruise ship with the bountiful amenities, elegant décor, jam- packed activities calendar and planned social events. Like- wise, Memory Care communities are doing amazing things for people with dementia; aroma therapy, music therapy, and many other cutting-edge programs to help create a peaceful life.
There are Assisted Living and Memory Care choices
for every level of economic means but with over 60 places
to choose from in Brevard County alone it can be an overwhelming and daunting task to  nd the right place. That is where Oasis Senior Advisors comes in. As a certi ed Senior Advisor, we can provide gentle, compassionate, guidance
for all your needs. We have done the leg work for you, we have collected the resources for you, and we will spend
as much time as you require to  nd the right community, resource, or support group. With our proprietary software we pride ourselves in matching you to the best  t and we are
at your side every step of the way from tour, to move-in, to adjustment period.
The twilight years can be dif cult, but the right choice can make all the difference. Let us help guide you to solutions that offer the best our communities have to offer. The decision is deeply personal, but we can help you make a smooth transition, remember, there is a time for every season and you will know when it is time. SS
By Kathleen Buice, Certi ed Senior Advisor, Oasis Senior Advisor, 321-616-4020,
As the saying goes, “to every time there is a season”, the problem is, when do you know that season has arrived? As
a fellow “Boomer” I am struggling with that question with
my own parents who are both 85. Though in good health,
my siblings and I know that the day may come when one or both of them will no longer be safe living independently in their own home. I hope this letter will help clarify for you the options you/your parents have for a continued safe, digni ed, respectful living.
Just as there are levels to the loss of physical functionality and mental clarity, there are corresponding levels of care to mitigate those losses. Your choices will be determined by several factors,  nancial constraints, personal preference, safety, and speed of acceptance. Like any change, it takes time to accept a new reality and mourn the loss of what was. Referred to as Anticipatory Grief, we dwell on the loss of what is coming and so, hold tight to whatever is left of what we had. It is normal and painful but is part of the process of letting go.
When a loved one begins to fail in some capacity, we naturally help them compensate;  ll in that elusive word,  nd those keys, repeat our answers, or if it is physical, purchase Depends, brighter light bulbs, stronger glasses, talk louder. When the failings begin to endanger the loved one or to reach the stress tolerance or capacity of the partner/caregiver, it becomes necessary to consider other options. Caregiving is hard work for families, it is extremely stressful, and can cause depression, anger, resentment and physical decline in the caregiver.... that is how you know it is time.
Loss of cognitive function as opposed to physical function creates a unique set of problems. Technology offers plenty of solutions to physical loss, but mental loss creates complicated and extremely challenging issues. Dementia sufferers may be wanderers during the day or night. They might be elopement risks (a person actively seeking to leave the home due to a perceived task or obligation i.e. Silver Alerts). They may become agitated or aggressive or even combative. They may become unable to feed themselves, dress, wash, or use the toilet. It becomes overwhelming
for the caregiver and a danger to the health and safety of both parties. The loss of continence can cause urinary tract infections which cause dementia-like symptoms in the elderly and can lead to severe illness.
In the natural desire to maintain life as it was, there
are many levels of aid that can be taken before making
a decision to go to an Assisted Living or Memory Care community. In-home care companies offer varying levels
of care at an hourly rate, some have minimum daily and/
or weekly hour requirements. Prices range from about 18
to 22 dollars an hour and may require at least 2 to 4 hours per visit. Caregivers will tend to the patient, wash, dress, feed, toilet etc. and then clean the home and  x meals as requested. Some will do other services such as laundry, change bedding, walk dogs, shop for groceries or transport to doctor appointments. You can  nd just about any service you require. Your home can be out tted with devices to make the home safe such as special locks, tracking bracelets, fall monitors, safety bars, ramps or whatever suits the situation.
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5-year contract beginning with “Pollyanna” in 1960. The following year “The Parent Trap” was released,
perhaps her best-known role playing teenage twin sisters. Remade in 1998, Mills says a theater tour prevented her from accepting a cameo and only has praise for Lindsay Lohan’s performance in the remake.
“I’ve never actually met her but thought she was a very good actress. However, it was a rather bizarre expe- rience to watch the  lm because it felt so similar. I felt like Rip Van Winkle!”
Her next  lm for Disney was “In Search of the Cast- aways,” released in 1962, where Mills teamed up with suave French entertainer Maurice Chevalier and the always delightful British character actor Wilfrid Hyde-White.
“I loved them both. Maurice was a genuine charmer with a tremendous warmth and a wonderful twinkle in his eye. Wilfrid Hyde-White was just a darling man. He was a huge horseracing fan and always had a portable TV set in his dressing room to watch the races. It was such a privi- lege to work with those two.”
Now a true Hollywood icon herself, Mills is still thrilled by the chance to take on rewarding projects, such as the “Party Face” role.
“As you get older such wonderful opportunities don’t come along quite so often. It’s a very uncertain business, but I’m very grateful for the opportunities I’ve had.”
Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University at Mont- gomery, Ala, and has written features, columns, and inter- viewsforover650newspapersandmagazines. SS

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