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Senior Scene® | February Issue
Valentine’s Day Thoughts
William A. Johnson, P.A. Elder Law Attorney
With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, I thought it wise to have a discussion about long term care and couples. Many times in my practice, I get one spouse or significant other that is carrying the burden for caring for their spouse or significant other. Depending on the care needs of the other person, this can be a huge burden especially if everyone is in their eighties or nineties. Can you imagine being 90 years old and trying to assist with someone’s bathing, dressing, feeding, walking, toileting and transferring all day long, each and every day with no breaks?
Many times I feel the need to have realistic conversations with the well spouse or significant other about their own health care needs. Providing twenty-four hour a day services for someone when you are ill- equipped to do so can result in you having a myriad of health troubles yourself including death. Regardless of age, if you are a primary caregiver, make sure you have your own health checked out.
The reason I bring this up is that sometimes it is better to get help either at home, in an assisted living facility or, if needed, at a nursing home. And in my view, the sooner the better if the care needs are significant. That way the home health care agency, assisted living facility or nursing home can do the daily tasks while you can be free to be there fully to comfort your loved one.
Sometimes organization is easier said than done, even for a professional organizer such as myself. It’s easy to guide someone else in making the difficult decision to give up precious keepsakes that represent beautiful memories of the past but when I had to make these same decisions, I remembered that these can be gut-wrenching. We, as humans, are creators of our senses; our sight, touch, smell and taste of all elicit chemical reactions that recreate the thoughts and feelings of past experiences, thus, we love our possessions and will be very protective of them. We keep those possessions that remind us of love, happy times, and significant life events.
And now for my story...
For the last three years, I have been living in Florida and my hubby, who was not ready to retire, was living in California. 5 months ago, he FINALLY decided to retire and move here to be with me. Many decisions had to be made as we were going to combine the contents of two houses that were as totally different as the east and west coasts of the U.S. Wow, where to start...
My husband wanted to get rid of the rattan and wicker furniture that I had bought for our condominium in Florida, I wanted to keep it. Decisions, Decisions...We had two sets of everything that we loved; living room sets, bedroom sets, dining room sets, dishes, silverware, keepsakes and momentos from 34 years of marriage; all special and precious to one or to both of us.
The original plan was to sell the 2200 square foot house in California and settle into our 1850 square foot condo. After much discussion, we decided that we would sell both and purchase our “forever” home in Merritt Island. Stay tuned for my next article to see how I blended styles into one comfortable and cozy home we love.
Organization: Easier Said Than Done
Carla Pickerill Organized Creative Designs
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