Enjoying Thanksgiving with a Senior Loved One

By Traci Graf, RN

                The holidays are approaching us, unfortunately this time of year can be especially difficult for senior citizens. Loneliness and depression are common as many seniors watch families gathering while they are alone. Life is different for many people over age 65 and comes with unique challenges. There are some things to consider when celebrating the holidays with a senior that can make the experience more enjoyable for them.

                Family activities like looking at old family photos or movies can make a senior feel loved and included. It gives them the ability to be the star of that moment as they recall memories that others cannot and tell family stories from generations before them. Old photos can easily lead to discussions about family traditions, past holidays and loved ones who are gone but not forgotten. Even young children become enthralled with hearing about their own family while looking at pictures. So, the next time Grandma and Grandpa are over, break out the old pictures and watch them get excited over the memories.

                Elderly family members with incontinence or eating challenges can be well cared for by a responsible family member or hired home health aide for the day. Deciding who will play this role is important for both sides and should be solidly planned before the day. Many people want to bring seniors home from facilities on holidays but are concerned about personal hygiene and incontinence issues. Hiring a professional to accompany and assist your elderly loved one can be an extremely helpful and allow both you and your loved on to truly enjoy the day.

                Make accommodations for your elderly loved one to participate in the meal preparation. Let them peel potatoes, cut vegetables, arrange food on platters, help set the table. Preparing a holiday meal is something many seniors miss, so creating ways for them to get involved can be beneficial. Ask them about their favorite holidays foods or recipes and have them instruct on the preparation of the food.  Many have fond memories connected to certain foods they ate during a holiday. This is a great way to pass holiday recipes and traditions down to future generations.

                Finally, take advantage of time spent with younger generations. When in the presence of your grandkids consider asking them to set you up with a Facebook profile on your phone so you can keep connected with what is going on in their lives. Another idea would be to teach seniors how to face time or video chat on their phones to give them options for communication. The holidays are a time to connect with people, if you have an elderly neighbor living alone consider inviting them to dinner. Most important is to make our seniors feel loved, respected, included, and valued every opportunity we can. Happy Thanksgiving!