Grief During the Holidays

by | Nov 30, 2021 | Featured Article (05), General Interest, Magazine, Senior Health

Grief During the Holidays

The holidays are supposed to be a joyful time, but if you’ve recently lost someone, it can be a difficult time.

Q I recently lost my dad. He lived a long life, but the holidays without him will feel empty. What are some ways to cope?

A There are different ways to cope, but some key ways include:

  • Letting yourself feel your sadness. If you want to cry, cry. Expressing your grief is part of the healing process. Don’t judge yourself.
  • Make time to be with others. While part of the grieving process is a solo act, it is important not to isolate yourself, particularly during the holidays. So make an extra effort to meet with friends occasionally, if even for a short amount of time. Also, consider joining a local bereavement group.
  • Be gentle with yourself.
  • Don’t do more than you can handle. During the holidays, this may mean you don’t attend every holiday party you’re invited to. And for the get-togethers you do manage to attend, you don’t need to stay long. Allow yourself a wide berth this year; this is not the time to “push” yourself.
  • Drink alcohol in moderation. Imbibing during the holidays is very popular, but alcohol is a depressant, so watch your intake.
  • Even if you don’t usually journal, putting pen to paper is a cathartic way to express your range of emotions.
  • Take a bath, it’s known for reducing stress physically and mentally.
  • If you’re having a really off day, it’s ok to make a cup of tea, snuggle with your pet – and take a mental health day.

Q I lost a loved one six months ago. I’m still incredibly sad, but part of me wants to start going out again, especially now that it’s the holidays. But I also feel guilty. Is it wrong for me to celebrate, even a little, so soon after my friend’s death?

A Guilt is actually a very common feeling after a loved one passes away, but you shouldn’t feel guilty at all for wanting to celebrate the holidays. It is a way to bring back some normalcy to your life, and very life-affirming, which is ultimately the key to getting through your grief long-term – a very healthy goal to have.

  1. How do I handle traditions?
  2. It can be difficult to carry on traditions after losing a love one. This time may be a good time to look at which traditions you want to carry on and perhaps it’s a time to create new ones. It’s a safe time to explore what works for you. Don’t be afraid to create a tradition that includes honoring the memory of your loved one.

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